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I Can Handle it!
Fear comes in many forms and levels. You could have trepidation or anxiety, and your reactions could be hesitation or paralysis. A book I read called Feel the Fear and do it Anyway, by Susan Jeffers is about not fighting fears or waiting until they're gone, but feeling the fear and going ahead anyway. You don't know if you'll ever reach that 100% confidence level that you may think you need in order to move forward but you don't need 100%. You need to see that you can move forward and know that you are willing to do it regardless of any guarantee that it will work. The main thing that I got from this book is this idea: "I can handle whatever happens."
From Willing Change Newsletter
Expect the Best! In Greek Mythology, Pygmalion was a sculptor who carved a statue of a beautiful woman and fell in love with it. He believed it could come to life - and it did! Thus the name, the Pygmalion effect has been applied to an idea you know better as the self-fulfilling prophecy.
A study resulted in the book, Pygmalion in the Classroom, which showed that the teachers’ expectations of how students were to perform had an astounding effect on how they actually did perform compared to the others. The adjustment in the teachers’ behaviours created a different learning environment which caused different behaviours in the students. When the teachers expected more students produced more, and conversely if they expected less the students’ performance suffered.
Consider how this effect can play out in your workplace, when you participate in sports, and in our everyday decision-making. It would be helpful if those around you cooperate and helped you to excel by expecting you to do your best, but you are always free to expect more of yourself. In fact, why not reach for the stars!
From January 2018 WC Newsletter
I have a fascination with beliefs and how they affect my life and yours.
Your belief system is your personal set of thoughts or ideas of what is true. It acts as a personal set of eyeglasses, showing you what to expect when you go out in the world. It not only colours what you do see, it also filters out from your thoughts anything that you do not believe in.
Early this year I was driving from Southern Ontario to Nova Scotia and it was very cold but there was no snow in the air and I was ready to go home so I headed north and the weather predictably deteriorated. The roads were slick and the wind pushed my car sideways and so I chose to go at a slow pace, along with many others. The first day of driving took three hours more than planned but I was very thankful to reach my usual Edmundston hotel and to eat my vending machine dinner before sleep.
On the second day the roads were snow covered and drove at 80 kmph instead of the permitted 110. I mentally calculated the extra time it would take to arrive home given the slower pace but then I realized, just because I had to drive slowly at the beginning of the trip didn’t mean the whole day of driving would be the same.
This is where my fascination in beliefs surfaced. My assumption made me wonder why I believed the drive would be slow all day; it made no sense. Apparently I have a core mindset that tells me that what I am experiencing now will continue for some time, in this case for the entire driving time of my trip. I believe I am not alone in this often faulty core belief.
Do you know what core beliefs you hold in your subconscious?
Take the BELIEFS INVENTORY at www.willingchangecourses.com/FreefromJVC
Expect the Best! In Greek Mythology, Pygmalion was a sculptor who carved a statue of a beautiful woman and fell in love with it. He believed it could come to life - and it did! Thus the name, the Pygmalion effect has been applied to an idea you know better as the self-fulfilling prophecy.
A study resulted in the book, Pygmalion in the Classroom, which showed that the teachers’ expectations of how students were to perform had an astounding effect on how they actually did perform compared to the others. The adjustment in the teachers’ behaviours created a different learning environment which caused different behaviours in the students. When the teachers expected more students produced more, and conversely if they expected less the students’ performance suffered.
Consider how this effect can play out in your workplace, when you participate in sports, and in our everyday decision-making. It would be helpful if those around you cooperate and helped you to excel by expecting you to do your best, but you are always free to expect more of yourself. In fact, why not reach for the stars!
From January 2018 WC Newsletter
I have a fascination with beliefs and how they affect my life and yours.
Your belief system is your personal set of thoughts or ideas of what is true. It acts as a personal set of eyeglasses, showing you what to expect when you go out in the world. It not only colours what you do see, it also filters out from your thoughts anything that you do not believe in.
Early this year I was driving from Southern Ontario to Nova Scotia and it was very cold but there was no snow in the air and I was ready to go home so I headed north and the weather predictably deteriorated. The roads were slick and the wind pushed my car sideways and so I chose to go at a slow pace, along with many others. The first day of driving took three hours more than planned but I was very thankful to reach my usual Edmundston hotel and to eat my vending machine dinner before sleep.
On the second day the roads were snow covered and drove at 80 kmph instead of the permitted 110. I mentally calculated the extra time it would take to arrive home given the slower pace but then I realized, just because I had to drive slowly at the beginning of the trip didn’t mean the whole day of driving would be the same.
This is where my fascination in beliefs surfaced. My assumption made me wonder why I believed the drive would be slow all day; it made no sense. Apparently I have a core mindset that tells me that what I am experiencing now will continue for some time, in this case for the entire driving time of my trip. I believe I am not alone in this often faulty core belief.
Do you know what core beliefs you hold in your subconscious?
Take the BELIEFS INVENTORY at www.willingchangecourses.com/FreefromJVC
OPTIMISM
This is a quote from Willing Change which I think follows the self-fulfilling prophecy message of the Pygmalion effect.
Thoughts for Optimism
• I see only positive outcomes.
• I meet challenges with the self-assurance of winning.
• I always expect the best.
• I am satisfied with my life.
• I count my blessings.
• I am always optimistic about the future.
• I expect to have more good than bad in my life.
• I focus on solving problems rather than dwelling on them.
• I take good risks.
• I look for opportunities.
• I can handle anything.
From a WC Newsletter
According to Wikipedia, hypnosis is a state of relaxation, with focused attention and increased suggestibility. You can search the web for information about how to find a good hypnotist or to self-hypnotize, but I have been more interested in the scripts that are available for free on some of the websites. They help with step #2 of the Willing Change model for change;
Determine the mindsets for your desired change.
Here are a few subjects I found with some helpful scripts that suggest how you may want to think:
From January 2018 WC Newsletter
THE GREATEST REMEDY IN THE WORLD IS CHANGE; and change implies the passing from the old to the new. It is also the only path that leads from the lesser to the greater, from the dream to the reality, from the wish to the heart's desire fulfilled. It is change that brings us everything we want. It is the opposite of change that holds us back from that which we want. But change is not always external. Real change, or rather the cause of all change, is always internal. It is the change in the within that first produces the change in the without.
To go from place to place is not a change unless it produces a change of mind a renewal of mind. It is the change of mind that is the change desired. It is the renewal of mind that produces better health, more happiness, greater power, the increase of life, and the consequent increase of all that is good in life. And the constant renewal of mind -- the daily change of mind -- is possible regardless of times, circumstances or places. He who can change his mind every day and think the new about everything every day, will always be well; he will always have happiness; he will always be free; his life will always be interesting; he will constantly move forward into the larger, the richer and the better; and whatever is needed for his welfare today, of that he shall surely have abundance.
Christian D. Larson
According to Wikipedia, hypnosis is a state of relaxation, with focused attention and increased suggestibility. You can search the web for information about how to find a good hypnotist or to self-hypnotize, but I have been more interested in the scripts that are available for free on some of the websites. They help with step #2 of the Willing Change model for change;
Determine the mindsets for your desired change.
Here are a few subjects I found with some helpful scripts that suggest how you may want to think:
- Self-esteem, confidence, positive thinking
- Reducing anxiety, anger, fears
- Goal accomplishment, increasing efficiency, better and quicker decision-making, reducing procrastination
- Weight loss, stop smoking, reduce stress
- Wealth and prosperity thinking, public speaking success
From January 2018 WC Newsletter
THE GREATEST REMEDY IN THE WORLD IS CHANGE; and change implies the passing from the old to the new. It is also the only path that leads from the lesser to the greater, from the dream to the reality, from the wish to the heart's desire fulfilled. It is change that brings us everything we want. It is the opposite of change that holds us back from that which we want. But change is not always external. Real change, or rather the cause of all change, is always internal. It is the change in the within that first produces the change in the without.
To go from place to place is not a change unless it produces a change of mind a renewal of mind. It is the change of mind that is the change desired. It is the renewal of mind that produces better health, more happiness, greater power, the increase of life, and the consequent increase of all that is good in life. And the constant renewal of mind -- the daily change of mind -- is possible regardless of times, circumstances or places. He who can change his mind every day and think the new about everything every day, will always be well; he will always have happiness; he will always be free; his life will always be interesting; he will constantly move forward into the larger, the richer and the better; and whatever is needed for his welfare today, of that he shall surely have abundance.
Christian D. Larson
Notes from Jane Vlasblom Collins
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